As parents we are not strangers to the flurry of activity that can accompany raising children.
When my children were born, it seemed as if a new busyness and slowness had entered my
schedule all at the same time. Each time a baby was born, my husband and I would make
adjustments to schedules and priorities to allow us to acclimate as a new family all over again. Nap schedules and feedings, chasing toddlers and cleaning up messes were all par for the course. Now, the children are older and their needs and capabilities have changed. However, the busyness and bustle of family life remains. How can we lead well and not get lost in all the movement?
Amidst the uniqueness of this season of life Jesus still calls us as parents to be people of one
thing. I am reminded of Luke 10 where Jesus tells Martha that she had been “distracted with
much serving” (v. 40). Mary, who was not helping her but sitting at His feet, had “chosen the
good portion,” which would “not be taken away from her” (v. 42). Can we relate to being like
Martha at times? Are we tempted to get distracted by the rush of taking kids to extra-curricular activities, ministry or life’s daily demands? Jesus wants to gently remind us when our plates feel full, “you are anxious and troubled about many things, but one thing is necessary” (v. 41- 42).
One thing impacts our day above all others. One thing enables us to have what it takes to
parent with grace, wisdom and strength. One thing is needed when all other things also need to get done. It is sitting at the feet of Jesus, spending time in His presence and in His word. We must be people of the better part or the good portion like Mary. At times it can feel tempting to put our time with Jesus last because we are serving. However, although we want to steward our ministry to our family out our love for Him, service can not replace love and intimacy with Him. It is from the place of intimate connection to Christ that all else flows.
So, what are some practical things we can do to be parents and families after one thing?
- As a parent, schedule daily unrushed time with Jesus. There may be times it gets
interrupted by the unexpected, but don’t give up. We can’t underestimate the
importance of tending our hearts first. It directly impacts how we intentionally and
unintentionally lead our families.
- Evaluate your priorities personally and as a family. When we spend time with God, He
may have us make adjustments to make more room for His leadership in our lives. Be
willing to give whatever He asks for. Are “good” things over taking the “best” thing? See
if there are any time wasters or activities that can be removed so that you can keep
saying yes to God and to His mission for you as a family.
- Model wholeheartedness to the Lord. Our children watch our lives closely. Whatever
has our affection will show. Allow God to transform and align your heart daily so that
you can live with integrity before your family. As you receive from Him, His life and love
will be seen. “And I am sure of this, that he who began a good work in you will bring it
to completion at the day of Jesus Christ” (Philippians 1:6. ESV).
By Sophia Howard
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